Tuesday, May 8, 2001

My girlfriend said she needed space. It's been quite a few days. What do I do?

The other week, she told me she needed some space. She's had some home issues(her parents are getting divorced), and I was trying to comfort her. I was very confused as to what she wanted, so I kept telling her I was always there for her. I tried to see if she needed some space because she kept going quiet on me and telling me she was thinking, and she'd always tell me to stay(in retrospect, I should've just quietly stood by her). Eventually, she told me that she needed some space. I left her alone for almost an entire day before texting her, just to check up on her. Later, she posted on myspace that she just needed some time to think about things. It's been a few days since then. Her birthday was today, so I texted her to wish her a happy birthday. I just don't know what to do. I'm worried that she's going to leave me. I really love her. She means a lot to me. I'm trying to give her space, but I miss her so much. Any advice?

Answer on My girlfriend said she needed space. It's been quite a few days. What do I do?

Well, with her parents getting a divorce, she feels like shell be put in the same situation one day and probably just wants to put the relationship you two have, on hold for now, until things calm down a bit, send her roses, with a card, write something good in it, prove to her you arent going anywhere, no matter what. texting her etc when she wants her space is probably one of the worst things you can do, i know this by experiance. Let her know your there for her no matter if its today or a week from today...she needs you, even though she doesnt realize it, shes probably scared and upset about the whole divorce thing, that does take a big affect on the whole family not just the couple. Hang in there, i hope i gave you some help there, and i hope things get better, and im sorry for what you are going through i know it sucks, and im a girl and ive been through it but now im currently married!!